Am I a party pooper?

Planning a birthday party sure can become a stressful ordeal. In thinking about Bella turning 3 and wanting to have her a party it seems like there is this pressure to go all out and make it this sort of birthday party extravaganza. I mean do I rent a clown? Do I rent a jumpy thing? Should I get her a pony for pony rides around the yard for her and the other kids to enjoy? Party favors,food, decorations,games,etc etc etc. I mean if you let it.....this party planning thing could get way out of hand. It gets me wondering what the whole purpose of that is. Is it really for the child or for the other kids or so you can say you threw this amazing party for your child. I am not criticizing parents who throw large, over the top parties for their kids.....if that is what you like and you can comfortably afford it then it's definitely your prerogative to do your child's party as you choose. It's just not us. But then a part of me does feel a little bad, like if I was a good/fun mom I would plan her one of these extravagant shindigs because it would be so fun for her blah blah blah. Or would it? Actually thinking about all that made me realize that it would all probably be so overwhelming and crazy and the whole focus of just pampering Bella for a day gets lost. So I have decided to just have a gathering of our closest family, we'll eat some food and have some cake( that I will happily make myself) and shower her and make it be all about HER. Not about the food, or the games or impressing all the guests with how we went all out. Again...I am not picking on parents who do that....I'm just saying I don't think that is the route we will take this year. Maybe when she turns 5 I will do that. 5 seems like a good year to go all out for a party but for now we are going to stick with small and intimate and surely she will be perfectly content with that.